Don’t be a poor sport & Truths

The truth is that I am really writing this post to myself (although hopefully it will be of interest to someone else). Have you ever been a better advice giver than taker. That would be me.

The truth is that it can be easy to give up or quit when things are not going your way. This applies to everything in life, but it can be applied to running too.


The truth is that it is a whole lot easier tell someone to be a good sport and learn from their mistakes than it is to actually do it for yourself.

I remember when my daughter was younger working a lot with her on being a good sport. She does not like losing and has no problem expressing that.  But no one really likes to be around someone who is a poor sport.

The truth is that during my last few races I was being a poor sport on the inside. I walked a couple of times in both of these races. Not because I really needed too, but because the race was not going as I planned and I was giving up. Sure, I was able to muster things back up again and finish strong, but there were some ugly middle miles (mentally and physically).

The truth is that I did not trust my training. I went out trying to bank some time thinking I would fade in the end. Mistake.

My advice is not to put much mental energy into bad races. Don’t dwell on them. They are just one run out of thousands. They are bound to happen and they are part of the reason why great races feel so great!

The truth is that you can do everything right and still have a bad race. There are a lot of things that you just can’t control (unfortunately). Just work on controlling the controllables :).

I could have controlled my pacing and I could have controlled my attitude and I didn’t.


These are lessons learned (hopefully). Not to say I will never make the same mistake again, but hopefully I remember these races and be a whole lot less likely to make the same mistake :).


The last 2 long runs that I have done have felt so amazing. I ran them both with my husband and my kids rode bikes. The main goal was to start very conservatively and get progressively get faster each mile. There were several times in both of these runs that my husband had to remind me to check my pace. If mile 1 is 8:40 mile 2 shouldn’t be 7:40 on this type of a run! This past Saturday we did 12 miles with mile 1 being 8:50 and mile 12 was 6:45. Each mile was faster than the one before and I felt strong at the end.

Time to move on to the next race. I have a 10k on the 4th of July. It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my last 10k!!!!

Do you have a hard time taking your own advice?

Have you ever struggled with your attitude during races?

Who else is racing the 4th of July!!!!!!



  1. says

    Gosh, I think so many of us struggle to really follow our own advice. Even more so when we know it in the first place, then are reminded in a bad race (or some other experience). My problem when I have a bad race is that I want to get right back out there and race again to prove I’m still in shape – that I’m near where I want to be and it was just one bad race. Recovery is the last thing on my mind.
    Awesome job on that 12 miler though! And hopefully revisiting the 10k will be just what you need this summer 🙂

    • Jen says

      Thanks :). I can totally be the same way! Almost 2 years ago I had a bad marathon and ran a “revenge” marathon 2 weeks later. It worked out great for me, but it definitely could have turned out bad!!! I went into the 2nd one knowing there was a good chance my body would totally rebel at doing another one so soon 🙂

  2. says

    Oh YES it is so much harder to follow your own advice. Just by writing this, I think you’re moving past those races and it’s ok to feel the way you do. You put so much heart into your training and, when you have a ‘bad’ race, it’s hard to just smile and move on. However, having two fantastic training runs like the ones you describe I’m sure will help you move on! Nice job with the progressions!! Good luck with that 10K. I haven’t done one in many years but I love the distance…at least in the last .25 miles 🙂

    • Jen says

      Thanks 🙂 All races are great the last .25 :)…it is the middle of them that is the challenge :).

  3. says

    I have a horrible time taking my own advice. I have organized a running group in my area and some of the runners will ask me for advice on injuries, training, etc. I always tell them, “Do as I say and not as I do.” LOL!

    • Jen says

      Yup…that motto sounds about right :)!!!! I would never tell anyone that I coached to do some of the things I do…and I know that and do them anyways :/.

  4. says

    Absolutely have a hard time taking my own advice! Also, we set a priority to make commitments for others happen, but don’t set the bar quite as high for ourselves! Yay for 10Ks!!! Go get ’em!

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